Not my Rock
Updated: Sep 2
As Alex and I get closer to our wedding date, there are a few things that have been on my heart to share…
As a graduate of Anderson University, I was under the impression that everyone should get engaged by their junior year (“ring by spring”). THANK GOODNESS that didn’t happen to me. I mean, I’m more mature than I was then and, man, that’s saying a lot. I realize now that I needed to grow and figure out career paths and where I wanted to live before having another person enter the picture.
I remember having countless people trying to make me feel better about being single. They would tell me I needed to be “right” with God before he would give me a husband. I can tell you that was not beneficial to me whatsoever. When will I ever be “right” with God? I’m imperfect, so I will never be “right” with God! In fact, it’s always going to be a work in progress. I will always be a work in progress.
Alex has never been, and never will be my “rock”. We’ve talked about it several times and both of us are imperfect, so we will both make tons of mistakes. That being said, I cannot put all my happiness, joy, and hope into a single person. That’s not fair to him or me. There’s only one Rock and He gave Alex to me to make life a little sweeter.
FINALLY: if you’ve made it to the end of this novella, I’m flattered. If you’re single and have heard these things, you’re not alone. I didn’t get a ring by spring or even meet my future husband until after I graduated college…twice! I never got that fairytale romance story like social media may portray either. Life is messy and unpredictable, but when you least expect it, something great happens. If marriage is on your heart, I believe it’s there for a reason. Try not to be discouraged! Grab a cookie and some coffee and know your twenties are still literally crazy young, and wait until the poor fellow can actually afford a ring.